We’re all just trying our best, 2017: A Year in Review

The tone of this post was going to be really different than what it turned out to be. Don’t get me wrong, 2017 was a really good year for me, despite, y’know, [gestures to the entire United States]. Work was good, school was good, social life was good, living situation was good! Good times all around!

So why is this post still going to be so down in the mouth?

…BECAUSE I GOT DUMPED! YA GIRL GOT HER ASS DUMPED SO HARD!

“But Megan,” you say, “we’re confused. We’ve been reading these yearly posts. We know that although you may be a beautiful tropical fish, you have barely dated anyone ever. How then, pray tell, were you dumped?”

Remember this bit from last year’s post?

The big one, the most resolution-y one, is something I cooked up for me and my younger brother, Alex, to work on together. We’ve both been getting back into the dating scene — he semi-recently got out of a long-term relationship, and I’m, well, me — and we’re both pretty bad at it, so I decided that what we needed was accountability. I proposed that we each set a goal to go on at least one date a month and then report back to each other on how it went, and Alex was… shockingly game? We already both failed at it for January — this is now a callout post — but February is looking better!

The first date I went on in 2017 was in early March, with a guy named Calvin who I met on a dating app. It went really well, so we went out again! And again, and again, for the next ten and a half months.

It was probably the nicest thing that ever happened to me.

But, due to some personal circumstances which I will not detail here, Cal decided to call it off. It’s still super fucking raw, obviously, since it only happened a couple weeks ago, and if I had a shred of dignity about the whole thing I’d be waiting to write about it until I was more Gloria Gaynor and less Sinead O’Connor, but please! When have I ever known when to stop!


All right, now that all the emotional oversharing is out of the way (an audible sigh of relief goes up from the audience), here’s everything else that happened in 2017.

  • Library! 2017 was mad busy at work, since we were under new management, and I ended up taking on a much larger role than I had in 2016. It was great! Learned a lot, worked a lot, had a lot of fun. A library school friend of mine was hired on as the new children’s librarian, the gerbils had babies, I cataloged books until I forgot my own name. I’ve kind of got an expiration date at this job, for reasons with which I will not bore you, but I’ll really, really miss it when I leave.
  • Moved! My lease in Oakland was up in August, and while I was sad to see Monmouth Manufacturing go, I have ended up really loving my new place! Squirrel Hill is such a great neighborhood — right between the parks, ten minutes from work, dozens of good restaurants and bars, plus the Manor Theater! My roommates are also very sweet girls and I’m quite fond of them. It’s been a fun time, and I’m looking forward to living for two years in the same place, like some kind of stable, functional adult.
  • Grad school! Grad school continues, hurrah. It’s a bit of a slog at this point, but my grades have been good and the work has been interesting, so no real complaints.
  • Music! One of the perks of dating a musician is that you end up at so many shows. I have always really loved live music and this year saw new venues, new artists, and new friends there with me. Highlights include The Shins (on my birthday!), Tennis, Sylvan Esso, Future Islands, Wye Oak, Chance the Rapper, Andy Shauf, and Halsey. I also got to see more local acts than ever before (read: more than zero) which was a treat.
    • Relatedly, I finally wrested my dad’s record player away from him (read: out of the attic where it’s been untouched for literally 20 years) and I just this month got the last part I needed to get it back up and working properly. I’ve got a little record collection started, starting with the portion of my dad’s extensive collection that I found interesting (took the Fleetwood Mac, left the Steely Dan). Alex got the rest of it.
  • Travel! No international travel this year, but some good times regardless.
    • I spent a long weekend in Chicago for the ALA Annual Conference, which was like librarian Disneyland. I got to take an overnight train, and ride the El, and see a couple of old friends, and get so many ARCs and meet so many authors. I have not spent much time traveling alone, and it was nice! I don’t think I’d make a habit of it, but it was fun to have a little solo adventure.
    • The whole Zag fam spent the week of Thanksgiving in San Diego and LA, which we haven’t done before — skipping town for a holiday, I mean. We took a whole bunch of photos. California’s a pretty nice place.
  • Lake! The lake hardly deserves its own bullet point, seeing that it’s been a regular fixture in my life for the past ten years and I didn’t even get to spend more than a couple weekends up there this year, but quality over quantity! Alex and I had a bunch of friends up in June, sans any parents for the first time, which was a riot. Then in October I had Cal and Allison and Kelsey up for a lowkey fall weekend and we went hiking and got day drunk at the Southern Tier brewery and played a bunch of board games.
  • D&D! This weird tabletop game continues to be such a tremendously good time and a real bright spot in my life. We added two more players to our party recently, so now I’m wrangling five PCs, four of which are chaotic-aligned. Pray for me and my completely inadequate note-taking system.
  • Dogs! I got a lot of quality pup time in this year, with intermittent dogsitting for my coworkers’ dogs, Sadie (now sadly deceased) and Olive. Also got to hang out with Calvin’s dog Phoenix quite a bit, and he is the greatest dog of all the dogs. I’ve decided that I am getting a dog this year. My allergies can go directly to hell.
  • Pins! I don’t know why I’m giving this its own bullet point but there are so many photos of fun pins that I’ve gotten this year on my Insta that it seems remiss to not mention them. I’ve got quite a little collection going and it’s delightful.
  • Therapy! Putting an exclamation point on that seems wrong. In October I started therapy back up for the first time in a couple years, and it’s good. Therapy is good for you and everyone should do it.

An evaluation of my 2017 resolutions:

  • Go on at least one date a month: HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. (Success.)
  • Be more active: I took a couple yoga classes and went hiking a few times. I went running exactly twice. After being a very consistent weight for most of my adult life, I actually ended up gaining a bit of weight in 2017 for a variety of reasons, which has been infuriating because now my clothes don’t fit right! I’m working on losing it again by not eating garbage 100% of the time, and in the last two months I actually managed to drop about a third of what I had gained in a year, so hooray? (Failure, but trending upwards.)
  • Prioritize my career: I worked a whole lot this year! I don’t have any particular accomplishments to point to, but I feel like I’ve actually made myself really valuable to the organization and hopefully this will lead to very good things in the future. (Success.)

I had all kinds of grand things lined up for 2018 resolutions, but they’ve all been shunted to the side in light of, uh, recent events. We’re working on the basics for now. Get up, get outside, get work done. Take a shower, eat a vegetable. You know how it is.

I’m gonna be finishing grad school and renewing my lease and turning 26 in August (the universe knows I can only remember one important date and that date is my birthday), so the big resolution 2018 is: GET A REAL JOB, ONE WITH HEALTH INSURANCE AND PTO AND EVERYTHING.

I should also probably continue the healthy eating. I’ve logged into myfitnesspal for… 76 days now, so let’s keep that going. I have some numbers and dates in mind which I will not disclose because I refuse to be held accountable for anything, ever.

Also, like I mentioned: it’s the year of the dog. That’s happening. I mean it.

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